A call on Friday gave me pause and the term “tipping point” came to mind.
The caller wanted help with his fear of heights. The reason for the call now was because his daughter wanted to go on trips and his fear of heights prevented that because that fear prevented him from flying.
So, I asked him the question I ask everyone who calls for hypnosis:
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being not motivated at all, 10 being extremely motivated), how motivated are you to make this change?
And he said he wasn’t motivated at all. And I had to tell him that I could not take him on as a client. I advised him that I can’t make someone do something they don’t want to do. He said he was willing to take that chance. I politely said that I wasn’t. He hadn’t reached his “tipping point”.
In order to be successful in hypnosis, you have to really want to make the change. In other words, you have to reach your tipping point.
The Merriam Webster online dictionary defines tipping point as:
the critical point in a situation, process, or system beyond which a significant and often unstoppable effect or change takes placehttps://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tipping%20point
For me, the tipping point when I decided to stop biting my nails was when I took a look at my nails one day and asked myself, “do I want to be still biting my nails when I turn 50?“. I said no, and so I found a hypnotist to help me with that habit. And it led me to a wonderful new career as a hypnotist.
Tipping Point Examples
A client once told me that she was sick and tired of having to shop at stores for plus-sized women like Penningtons. She wanted more choice in her wardrobe.
Other tipping points for weight loss motivation might be:
- pain in joints from carrying excess weight
- issues with climbing stairs
- being able to play with children and grandchildren
Another client needed to have a hip replacement and she was a smoker. And her doctor told her that he would not operate on her until she stopped smoking. She decided she wanted that new hip more than she wanted to smoke.
Other tipping points for motivation to quit smoking might be:
- constantly getting colds
- being told smokers are at a higher risk of covid-19
- being tired of wheezing and hacking all the time
- the cost of cigarettes
A client told me that she was tired of wearing hats all the time and being ashamed of how her hair looked. That was her tipping point.
So, what’s your tipping point?
Have you reached the point where your pain outweighs the benefit of a habit? Are you getting less than you’re gaining?
Are you mad as hell and you don’t want to take it anymore (to paraphrase a line from the movie, Network)?
Can you ask yourself the question above and answer with a 9, 10 or even an 11?
Then we should talk about how hypnosis can help you achieve the change you want to make. Please book a consultation and we can chat about it.