Sometimes things happen to stall or block something that we think we want. When things go wrong, what is your first thought?
- “crap, why is this preventing me from having what I want” [negative] or
- “maybe this is something telling me that this is not the right time to have or do this” [positive].
How do you look at it? If you’re like the majority of people, you choose the first option as your first thought. Maybe it’s because it’s something that one of your parents always said when things didn’t go their way, and that got programmed in as an automatic response.
We just had an experience that brought this home to me. We were considering getting a puppy, and on our way out to see her on Thursday, when car trouble turned us around. This morning I woke up to an email from our Vet clinic advising that the emergency vet clinic here in London is not taking walk-in patients right now. Instead, it directed us to an online vet service that does triage first. I don’t particularly like this concept. First, if it’s like Telehealth here in Ontario, they’re probably going to tell callers to go to the emergency vet clinic most of the time anyway. And callers will have to pay over $100 for the privilege of getting that referral. And it could take time that could be fatal to a pet.
And it got us thinking. Despite owners’ best efforts, sometimes puppies get into things they shouldn’t. That leads to emergency vet visits because puppies don’t understand 9 to 5 when they’re putting things into their mouths.
So we could have said, “crap, everything is conspiring against us to get a puppy”, and been very annoyed, angry even. But we concluded that now is not the right time for us to get a puppy. We chose option #2 because maybe both events happened for a reason.
It reminds me of one of my favourite songs from the television show Nashville (written by Rosi Golan, Chris Destefano and Natalie Hemby and sung by Connie Britton)., “Wrong for the Right Reasons”.
The chorus goes like this:
“‘Cause the bridge that burned
Took you out of the way
Made you turn around until you faced the demons
In the end you’ll learn
You’ll get there anyway
Sometimes it all goes wrong, goes wrong
For the right reasons”
If you want to hear the song in its entirety here’s the link. Give it a listen. It’s awesome.
We didn’t have to face any demons this morning, but we did have to face the decision, “should we get a puppy right now”. I think that email and the car issue were signs or messages, that right now isn’t that time. We advised the breeder and asked her to hold our deposit if things change in the future when hopefully, all this Covid crap is in our rearview mirrors.
How do you handle situations like this?
If you constantly focus on the negative, hypnosis can help you change that way of thinking. Why not book a free consultation to see if hypnosis is right for you?